Psychological Projection & Low Self Esteem
Is Psychological Projection disguising your own low self-esteem?
So psychological projection of your low self-esteem onto others prevents you from addressing your own self-esteem issues and problems. You may engage in psychological projection unconsciously because having low self-esteem can be incredibly painful to the person, so much so that you’ll unconsciously find ways to avoid facing that pain.
Projection is known as a psychological defence mechanism and we all have a lot of our own psychological defence mechanisms and it’s an example of one that often plays out for people who suffer from low self-esteem.
So projection is a process of attributing qualities to others that you find most uncomfortable about yourself really and all of this happens quite unconsciously but it helps to know when psychological projection is taking place as this way it becomes easier to confront the hard truth and grow as a person.
Becoming aware of your own psychological projection ..
Psychological projection is difficult to admit to because it can be hard to admit to having low self-esteem even though countless of us struggle with it. Low self-esteem is tied to low self-confidence and since confidence is highly regarded and for good reason, lacking it can make you feel vulnerable, weak or infantilised.
How can you be strong or mature if you chastise yourself at every given opportunity. If you psychologically project you may talk to yourself harshly in many different ways from the very subtle to the extreme and in some areas of your life but not others. It’s not something that people aren’t prone to simply by virtue of success or age, many people who appear incredibly confident may be battling a rather disparaging, hurtful inner voice that constantly puts them down.
So someone who unconsciously seeks to avoid acknowledging both to themselves and others, low self-esteem can be prone to projecting his or her low self-esteem onto others so it’s much easier to be irritated and annoyed by the perceived low self-esteem of others than face the fact that you’re actually troubled by low self-esteem yourself.
So how you might psychologically project your own low self-esteem..
The process of psychological projection also varies in different ways, you can project low self-esteem by imagining that others are constantly judging you in a negative way, that they hold negative opinions about yourself ‘which they don’t’ It’s just your own view of yourself projected into the world.
This can be very problematic for a person as it can end up disrupting your relationships with your family, friends, colleagues or romantic partners. Another example of this defence mechanism in action is when you project onto others the negative qualities that your low self-esteem makes you believe you have, which could include ugliness, weakness, stupidity, laziness and so on and so forth – the list is endless.
You judge others in this way in order to defend yourself against your own ‘inner critical voice’ that judges you in exactly the same way.
So how do we stop these psychological projections of low self-esteem?
Psychological projection may be a very common defence mechanism for you and me unconsciously be going on but it is possible to gain awareness of it. In addition there may be many things that you can do to actually stop projecting your negative beliefs about yourself on to others. Accept and understand your low self-esteem! Doing so makes it both easier to stop projecting and to catch yourself projecting.
When it happens it really is okay to acknowledge that you’re not always fine. We all have our own unique struggles when it comes to low self-esteem. A pivotal realisation is that it is not your fault, that you view yourself in a negative light after all no one is born with low self-esteem, noticing and responding in a healthy way to difficult thoughts is a bit of an art that requires practice over a period of time.
So try not to let those toxic thinking patterns ruin your life by incorporating a time in your day for quiet attentiveness toward your thoughts. You can view your low self-esteem much more clearly. Useful practices would include introspection, journaling, visualising, reading relevant material and meditation. You also shouldn’t be afraid to question your own thoughts.
Do you really know what others think and feel about you? what kind of evidence can you use to back up your assumptions about the minds of others?