Transgender Support Podcast – Interview with Amy & Kaz
Transgender Support Podcast
I’m Amy and I’m a student currently working on my level three in health and care and also the partner of a trans guy. Hello I’m Kaz and I’ve identified as a trans guy for about three years now. The word transgender is an umbrella term, so this includes binary people such as trans males and females but also non-binary people such as gender-fluid genderqueer and so on.
The term transgender simply means people that have a gender identity or gender expression that differs from their same sex. I thought it could be quite helpful to not only get the perspective from a transgender individual but also give my experience as a partner because I found that there are few resources available for partners. People within the LGBT community are evidently more susceptible to mental health issues, this is a result of a range of factors – there are high risks of abuse, high chances of discrimination and overall a life can tend to be more difficult.
It’s very important that if you are experiencing mental health issues as a result that you seek mental health care be it counselling or group therapy. More than four out of five which is 83% of trans young people have experienced name-calling or verbal abuse. Three out of five which is 60% have experienced threats and intimidation and more than a third which is 35% of transgender people have experienced physical assault. So if you don’t mind me asking Kaz, how did you realise you were transgender?
Well before I came out to my friends I was already known as the somewhat masculine person of the group which I liked but whenever I look back on my younger childhood I always remember telling my mam I’m a tomboy and I love playing football, basketball and stuff like that. I always disliked the way I dressed and I could never do anything with my hair and as I found out more I began to question whether I was gender fluid but realised I didn’t really fluctuate and I stuck with the male pronouns because I was more comfortable with that and then as prom began to approach the question was what was I going to wear. I mean a lot of my friends already knew me as a dude but my mam and family weren’t 100% aware which caused some issues closer to the time but I did wear a suit and it will be three years this Christmas since I came out to my friends and I came out to my mam probably three weeks ago. A direct definition of the term gender fluid is a person who does not identify themselves as having a fixed gender.
So Kaz in your experience how was the realisation that you’re a trans guy effected your mental health? Well I’ve struggled quite a bit with gender dysphoria as most transgender people do, I found that wearing a binder has massively helped with dysphoria caused by my chest and I tend to wear dark oversized clothing which usually helps mask things a bit. I did find that one small thing that helped was getting a haircut. I know it sounds like nothing but sometimes a haircut is the only thing you can change about yourself during early stages and especially before coming out to loved ones and it is quite a nice feeling knowing that you’re still in control of who you are. I experienced a lot of anxiety when it came to bathroom situations because when you’re in a public situation it can be quite nerve-wracking.
When I first came out I think I was a little too brave and I didn’t really get anxious but as I learned more I found out sometimes it is just better to be careful. Shopping in the male sections of shops can be quite nerve-racking if I’m not familiar with the shop so I usually will go shopping with somebody that I know to help. Something as simple as feeling that your voice doesn’t fit your gender or that you’re not tall enough can affect you mental health. Ive been told I’m only allowed to use a disabled toilet and although I’ve been warned it’s for my safety and other people’s it does make me feel quite uncomfortable, there have been times in the past where people have used my gender against me saying inappropriate things and calling me names behind my back. On a positive note I’ve found that over the years the world has become more accepting in my experience within the work environment. I’ve been made to feel a lot more comfortable and accepted for who I am. I would recommend talking to someone, it doesn’t matter if it’s a counsellor, a friend a relative or someone on a social media support group because a problem shared really is a problem halved.
► Support thats helped me:
• National Trans Helpline 07527 52 40 34
• LGBT Helpline 03003 30 06 30
• Mermaids Helpline 0808 801 04 00
• Feminisation Secrets https://feminizationsecrets.com
• YouTube Jammidodger